An Imbalance in the Sexes
NCW 33, April 1996 (Part II)
Q. I am a recent [female] convert to Christ and have become involved with an evangelical Church but I have noticed that apart from in the older established churches, most modern, active churches seem to have a major sex imbalance with about seven times more women converts to men. This means that those of us who are single are forced to find husbands in the world. What is the solution to this problem, and why does it exist?
Let us begin with the cause. Since the beginning of our ministry we have been warning Christians to be prepared for this very problem. We have taught that women, by their very natures, tend to be more humble and submissive then men, and therefore more receptive to the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and that therefore more women will convert than men. We have also taught that there will be considerably more women in heaven than men. So such a condition is not unexpected.
The solution is more difficult, particularly in the short term. The Bible prophesies that at the beginning of the Millennium the same sex imbalance will occur and indicates an old time-honoured solution (Isa.4). But such a solution is impractical today because of the cultural and philosophical bias of the western world (though is not a problem in most third world countries), unless you are willing to take real risks with a hostile society.
The best counsel that we can give to someone in a "developed" western country is: (1) Seek the Kingdom of God first, offering yourself for service; and (2) Pray for the Lord to give you a solution in harmony with His will. If you are truly putting the Lord first He will not suffer you to break one of His commandments, which is that we should not marry unbelievers, but will lead you to a faithful man by the by, no matter what the odds may be against you (in this case, 7:1 against).
For those willing to consider a radical yet for many women highly fulfilling solution to the sex imbalance problem in the churches, we refer you to HEM.
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