Logo Copyright © 2007 NCCG - All Rights Reserved
Return to Main Page

RESOURCES

Disclaimer

Introduction

Symphony of Truth

In a Nutshell

Topical Guide

5-144000

5 Commissions

10 Commandments

333 NCCG Number

144,000, The

A

Action Stations

Agency, Free

Alcohol

Angels

Anointing

Apostles

Apostolic Interviews

Apostolic Epistles

Archive, Complete

Articles & Sermons

Atheism

Atonement

B

Banners

Baptism, Water

Baptism, Fire

Becoming a Christian

Bible Codes

Bible Courses

Bible & Creed

C

Calendar of Festivals

Celibacy

Charismata & Tongues

Chavurat Bekorot

Christian Paganism

Chrism, Confirmation

Christmas

Church, Fellowship

Contact us

Constitution

Copyright

Covenants & Vows

Critics

Culture

Cults

D

Deliverance

Demons

Desperation

Diaries

Discipleship

Dreams

E

Ephraimite Page, The

Essene Christianity

Existentialism

F

Faith

Family, The

Feminism

FAQ

Festivals of Yahweh

Festivals Calendar

Freedom

G

Gay Christians

Gnosticism

Godhead, The

H

Heaven

Heresy

Healing

Health

Hebrew Roots

Hell

Hinduism

History

Holiness

Holy Echad Marriage

Holy Order, The

Home Education

Homosexuality

Human Nature

Humour

Hymnody

I

Intro to NCCG.ORG

Islam

J

Jewish Page, The

Judaism, Messianic

Judaism, Talmudic

K

KJV-Only Cult

L

Links

Love

M

Marriage & Romance

Membership

Miracles

Messianic Judaism

Mormonism

Music

Mysticism

N

NCCG Life

NCCG Origins

NCCG Organisation

NCCG, Spirit of

NCCG Theology

NDE's

Nefilim

New Age & Occult

NCMHL

NCMM

New Covenant Torah

Norwegian Website

O

Occult Book, The

Occult Page, The

Olive Branch

Orphanages

P

Paganism, Christian

Pentecost

Poetry

Politics

Prayer

Pre-existence

Priesthood

Prophecy

Q

Questions

R

Rapture

Reincarnation

Resurrection

Revelation

RDP Page

S

Sabbath

Salvation

Satanic Ritual Abuse

Satanism

Science

Sermons & Articles

Sermons Misc

Sermonettes

Sex

Smoking

Sonship

Stewardship

Suffering

Swedish Website

T

Talmudic Judaism

Testimonies

Tithing

Tongues & Charismata

Torah

Trinity

True Church, The

TV

U

UFO's

United Order, The

V

Visions

W

Wicca & the Occult

Women

World News

Y

Yah'shua (Jesus)

Yahweh

Z

Zion


    329
    The Eight Stages of
    Changing Wrong Behaviour

    The Sower, Vol.3, Issue 1, Jan-Feb 2001, p.8
    by Mark Graeser

    Changing any behaviour is a process that involves eight distinct stages. We may find that we are able to move quickly through the stages regardless of some behaviours, while others require a lifetime commitment. We may move quickly from stage to stage, or in some cases become hung up at a particular stage for months or even years. This overview of the changing of a behaviour can help us see the whole process and where we may be hung up. Chnaging a behaviour is like ascending a cliff, working against the gravity of our sinful nature. If we can see where the next foothold or handhold is, we may be able to reach for that successfully, even if we can't get the vision of completely being transformed and overcoming the sinful stronghold.

    (1) You are completely unaware that you are doing it, being deceived by your old nature ("... your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires" - Eph.4:22. "For I would not have known what coveting really was if the law had not said, 'Do not covet'" - Rom.7:7).

    (2) You are aware of the behaviour but you either do not think it is wrong, or do not think it is destructive or harmful enough to motivate you to change; instead you rationalise it and makes excuses ("Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins" - Jas.4:17).

    (3) You are aware of the behaviour and know it is wrong, but you continue in it anyway. You feel shame and remorse, but keep your feelings to yourself. You do not account to others for your behaviour nor connect with how they feel about you doing it ("I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate, I do" - Rom.7:15).

    (4) You are aware that your behaviour is wrong and admit it after the fact, sharing your feelings of shame and remorse with others, and particularly accounting to those whom you have hurt ("Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed" - Jas.5:16).

    (5) You are aware that it is wrong, and are open about it with others, but out of impulse or habitual response you do it anyway. But you stop yourself, even in the middle of the act, apologise and account to those you hurt (if others are affected), and choose to act out the right behaviour in a "second response."

    (6) You think about doing, or have an impulse to do, the wrong behaviour, but catch yourself before you act it out and follow up with the right behaviour, establishing a new habit.

    (7) You deliberately think about doing the right behaviour before a situation arises and then act it out in the moment as opportunity arises.

    (8) You do the right behaviour without even having to think about it. At this point, you have fully educated your conscience and do the right thing spontaneously. The transformation process is now complete, and you are a new person. Biblically, the number 8 means 'a new beginning', and you are now fully allowing the 'new man' to manifest himself in your life ("to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness" - Eph.4:23-24).

      "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God" (Rom.12:2, KJV).

    This page was created on 18 March 2001
    Last updated on 18 March 2001

    Reproduced with Thanks